不知道啦

Hi.... It's been some time since i've come here to write... So what is today's topic? i don't know... Yes, i really don't know what topic to give it... Alright, let's just start....

The dynamics of relationships between the fairer sex and the men (yeah, kinda sad we don't have a nice name to represent us..) are very complex... Why? i do not know. Maybe it is because the society has pinned down rules and expectations from both genders as to how they should act, behave, talk, et cetera.What attitude each of us should have, what personalities we should have... 

打个比如吧，在社会的眼里，男性are expected to be tough, to endure hardships, and yet be gentle to ladies. 我不是说这些不好。而是说，不要把每个人都以同样的眼光看待，don't expect the same from everyone, regardless of age, experience or background. 因为，如果一个人做不到/达不到你的要求的时候，你不只会失望，还会另到他人感觉有压力。但是，基本的事一定要有的。我想说的是，让一个人当回她/他自己。让她/他有空间发挥自己。而不是限制to the expectations and forms of this 社会。只要她/他是好的，就让她/他去做回自己。如果每个人都这样想的话，我们的社会更会有色彩了~~~

很可惜的是，我们每个人都不“小心”地在改变他人，so they would fit in the molds of the society... 说难听点，就是在制造机械人。唉…… Don't try to change or expect too much from a person, because when she/he finally changed, they are not the person you first met anymore. And trust me, 你当初会和她/他做朋友，因为她/他是独特的，是他们自己。他们改变了自己，就失去了自己。Sadly, this is what i see in today's world... People can't be themselves because the society wants them to be what the society wants. And a reminder, you, i, we, ARE the society...

"男生就是这样的。。。。你们不比女生来的敏感，来得有感情。。。女生很多东西都很难放得下，而男生呢？转个头就忘记一回事了。。当女生不开心，心情不好的时候，她想要听的是同感身受的话，而不是无谓的劝告，唠叨，不满，投诉。。。要劝，要唠叨，要投诉，可以在别天才说，不是现在说。。。女生都是很有情绪的动物。。。很多时候，都希望有人能够明白他们的心。。。她们的感受。。。而不是反方面的东西。。。" 

This is what someone very dear to me told me... i'm not sure about other people, but i am sure, i am not like this ( 你们不比女生来的敏感，来得有感情。。。女生很多东西都很难放得下，而男生呢？转个头就忘记一回事了。。 ) . 

其实，我不是不敏感，而是不想让别人看到而已。其实我不是很容易放得下，只是不想让人家知道而已…… 放得下的话，我哪里会那么长时间"emo"呢？我不开心的时候，心情不好的时候，常常都不让人知道的…… 宁愿自己受苦，也不想影响到他人…… 唉…… 

其实男女之间并没有很大的差别，差别只在看不看得到而已……

为什么我会提到这个呢？因为，这又回到来社会的要求了~~~

好了，我好像写太多东西了~~~~算是把心里的话，说出来……虽然没什么改善，不过好过没有吧~~~ 唉~~~~~~ 

Be yourself... Those who mind, don't matter; those who matter, don't mind...